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5 Things Great Small-Talkers Always Do

Think of it as a social performance you can finesse—with some help from the pros.

10 Comfortable Travel Outfits to Wear on Your Next Trip

Approved by flight attendants and SELF staffers.

Why Kristin Cavallari Waited 12 Years to Show Her Kids on TV

“No one’s ever seen that part of my life—and it’s the biggest part of my life.”
Asking for a Friend

My Friend Cut Me Off. How Can I Get Them to Forgive Me?

I ruined a great friendship over jealousy…and I’ve regretted it ever since.

5 Signs You’re in a Codependent Friendship, According to Experts

Because not all “closeness” is healthy.

How to Be a More Patient Person, According to Therapists

Because it’s not a personality trait—it’s a practice.
Column

Need Friendship Advice? Welcome to SELF’s Asking for a Friend

Therapist Miriam Kirmayer is here to help you make sense of your messiest, most complicated friendship moments.

50 Questions to Ask Your Dad That’ll Bring You Closer Than Ever

If “How’s work?” is the deepest you usually get, this list’s for you.
Cover Story

Aryna Sabalenka’s Next Set

Winning a Grand Slam was her dream—but now she realizes there’s more to life than tennis.

Hoda Kotb Is Ready for Her ‘Joy’ Era

At 60, the longtime morning show host moved to the suburbs, leaned into mom life, and started a business. And she couldn’t be happier.

5 Little Ways to Be a More Positive Person—Without Faking or Forcing It

Your brain is wired to expect the worst, but these tricks can help override that instinct.

How to Stop ‘Post-Vacation Blues’ From Ruining Your Return

The transition from unstructured fun back to your boring workweek doesn’t have to be so depressing.
Culture

Manifestation Might Not Be Magic—But It Can Still Help You Get What You Want

Here’s how to turn intention into action (without relying on the universe alone).

Need a New Mattress? Shop Our 9 Top Picks

These are the very best options for every type of sleeper.

SELF Editors’ Favorite Travel Essentials for Truly Long Days

Make the journey worth the destination.

How to Survive Friend Group Drama—Without Picking Sides

This season of ‘The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives’ is a textbook example of how *not* to handle beef. Here’s what to do instead.

6 Ways to Feel Better After Being Ghosted

Whether it was a promising potential partner or a so-called friend who pulled a disappearing act.

5 Subtle Signs You’ve Got a ‘Victim Mentality,’ According to Experts

Plus, how to let go of that “nothing ever goes my way” attitude.