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Life
5 Things Great Small-Talkers Always Do
Think of it as a social performance you can finesse—with some help from the pros.
By Jenna Ryu
10 Comfortable Travel Outfits to Wear on Your Next Trip
Approved by flight attendants and SELF staffers.
By Jessica Kasparian and Paige Levinson
Why Kristin Cavallari Waited 12 Years to Show Her Kids on TV
“No one’s ever seen that part of my life—and it’s the biggest part of my life.”
By Hannah Dylan Pasternak
Asking for a Friend
My Friend Cut Me Off. How Can I Get Them to Forgive Me?
I ruined a great friendship over jealousy…and I’ve regretted it ever since.
By Miriam Kirmayer, PhD
5 Signs You’re in a Codependent Friendship, According to Experts
Because not all “closeness” is healthy.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Be a More Patient Person, According to Therapists
Because it’s not a personality trait—it’s a practice.
By Jenna Ryu
SELF Daily
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Column
Need Friendship Advice? Welcome to SELF’s Asking for a Friend
Therapist Miriam Kirmayer is here to help you make sense of your messiest, most complicated friendship moments.
By Jenna Ryu
50 Questions to Ask Your Dad That’ll Bring You Closer Than Ever
If “How’s work?” is the deepest you usually get, this list’s for you.
By Jenna Ryu
Cover Story
Aryna Sabalenka’s Next Set
Winning a Grand Slam was her dream—but now she realizes there’s more to life than tennis.
By Christine YuPhotography by César Buitrago
Hoda Kotb Is Ready for Her ‘Joy’ Era
At 60, the longtime morning show host moved to the suburbs, leaned into mom life, and started a business. And she couldn’t be happier.
By Hannah Dylan Pasternak
5 Little Ways to Be a More Positive Person—Without Faking or Forcing It
Your brain is wired to expect the worst, but these tricks can help override that instinct.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Stop ‘Post-Vacation Blues’ From Ruining Your Return
The transition from unstructured fun back to your boring workweek doesn’t have to be so depressing.
By Jenna Ryu
Culture
Manifestation Might Not Be Magic—But It Can Still Help You Get What You Want
Here’s how to turn intention into action (without relying on the universe alone).
By Mara Santilli
Need a New Mattress? Shop Our 9 Top Picks
These are the very best options for every type of sleeper.
By Malia Griggs, Sara Coughlin, and Jordan Galloway
SELF Editors’ Favorite Travel Essentials for Truly Long Days
Make the journey worth the destination.
By Sara Coughlin
How to Survive Friend Group Drama—Without Picking Sides
This season of ‘The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives’ is a textbook example of how *not* to handle beef. Here’s what to do instead.
By Jenna Ryu
6 Ways to Feel Better After Being Ghosted
Whether it was a promising potential partner or a so-called friend who pulled a disappearing act.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Subtle Signs You’ve Got a ‘Victim Mentality,’ According to Experts
Plus, how to let go of that “nothing ever goes my way” attitude.
By Jenna Ryu
WNBA Legend A'ja Wilson Just Dropped a Hot Pink Basketball Sneaker With Nike
They're the coolest court kicks around.
By Katie Gunderman