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‘All My Exes Are Crazy’ Is a Relationship Red Flag You Should Take Seriously
Constantly trash-talking people they once loved reveals a lot about their character.
By Jenna Ryu
Big little lies
9 People on the Signs of Cheating They Wish They’d Paid Attention to Sooner
“Although she posted selfies with her friends almost daily, she would never point the camera at me.”
By Jenna Ryu
Dating in Your 30s Is Hard Enough—Here’s What It’s Like If You Also Have Breast Cancer
One guy told me, “I just get uncomfortable with needles and doctors and stuff like that.”
By Caroline Reilly
What to Do If ADHD Is Messing With Your Love Life
Being late to dates, forgetting to text, and blanking on names can hurt a budding romance.
By Julia Sullivan
Words of diss-couragement
The One Thing You Should Never Say to a Friend Going Through a Breakup
It’s a well-meaning comment, but it can make your heartbroken buddy feel worse.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Clear Signs You’ve Moved on From Your Ex—and Are Ready to Date Again
Are you looking to meet someone new for who they are…or who they remind you of?
By Jenna Ryu
Workplace Affairs Are More Common Than You’d Think. Here’s Why, According to Infidelity Experts
It’s not just CEOs at Coldplay concerts.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Bad Habits That Make It Harder to Get Over a Breakup
Some coping mechanisms that feel like progress could actually be holding you back.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Help a Friend in a Toxic Relationship, According to Therapists
You can’t force them to break up—but you can help them see the light with these tips.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Major Reasons People Cheat, According to Couples Therapists
Other than being an impulsive asshole, obviously.
By Jenna Ryu
6 Small, Everyday Habits Couples Therapists Wish You’d Stop Doing in Your Relationship
Because ignoring the little stuff is how you end up in the big stuff—and no one wants that.
By Jenna Ryu
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The 6 Best Lessons I Learned From Seeing a Dating Coach
Eternally single and anxiously attached, I brought in a professional to sort out my love life.
By Rebecca Fearn
Is It Ever Okay to Hit on Someone at the Gym?
Because “Nice squat form” can sound pretty close to “Yep, I’ve been staring at your ass.”
By Jenna Ryu
What Does It Really Mean to Be ‘Emotionally Unavailable’?
Dating someone who won’t let you in is frustrating…but it’s not always a lost cause.
By Jenna Ryu
Age-Gap Relationships Get a Bad Rap—But These 5 Tricks Make Them Work
“Babygirl” and “The White Lotus” are flipping the script…and real-life couples are too.
By Jenna Ryu
Can We Please Stop Giving Flirting Hacks Like ‘Sticky Eyes’ Too Much Credit?
There’s no magic formula to dating—no matter how many TikToks promise otherwise.
By Jenna Ryu
Yes, Taking a Break Can Make a Relationship Stronger—But Only Sometimes
Exploring what it's like to not be together (without fully splitting up) can have surprising benefits.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Back With Your Ex
Let’s make sure your Relationship 2.0 is an upgrade, not a rerun.
By Jenna Ryu
How Much Should Politics Really Matter in Relationships?
Ben and Sara seem to be hitting it off on this season of ‘Love Is Blind’—that is, until one reveals they didn’t vote in the last election.
By Jenna Ryu
‘Love Is Blind’ Has Us Wondering, Is It Shallow to Care About Height in a Relationship?
We asked experts when a “preference” turns into a problem.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Sext With Confidence and Have a Hotter Relationship Because of It
Expert tips for coming up with ideas and keeping the convo rolling.
By Erica Sloan
6 People Who Found Love Without Dating Apps Share How They Did It
A little inspiration for anyone who is so sick of swiping.
By Julia Ries Wexler
50 Non-Awkward Questions for a First Date That’ll Actually Spark a Connection
So you can skip surface-level small talk about the weather or your job—and cut to the good stuff instead.
By Jenna Ryu
Sure, Opposites Attract. But Do They Actually Stay Together?
There’s a difference between what’s exciting in the moment…and what has potential to go the distance.
By Jenna Ryu
What Is ‘Retroactive Jealousy’—And How Do I Stop It From Ruining My Relationship?
It’s okay to be a little preoccupied with your partner’s ex. But how you manage those insecurities makes all the difference.
By Jenna Ryu