marriage

Sex Love
6 Things I Learned From Blowing Up My Marriage (and Life) in My 30s
Disappointing others is uncomfortable—but it’s not the same as doing something wrong.
By Amber Rae

Relationships
The One Question You Should Never Ask Your Partner During a Fight
It turns the conversation into a debate instead of an opportunity to understand each other.
By Anna Borges

Love
What to Do If You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Sex Drives
Your relationship isn’t doomed, but it’s important to address it to keep resentment from building up.
By Jenna Ryu

Life
How to Make Friends With Other Couples
You might have to look outside your social circle to find The Ones.
By Julia Ries

Love
How Bad Is It, Really, to Go Through Your Partner’s Phone When They’re Not Looking?
Sneaking a peek at their texts can be tempting, but we asked a therapist if it’s worth it.
By Jenna Ryu

Love
7 People Share How They Discovered Their Partner Was Emotionally Cheating
“She was quick to start fights…and spoke fondly of a coworker.”
By Kayla Blanton

Losing battle
5 Signs You and Your Partner’s Arguments Are Unhealthy
If one of you regularly employs the silent treatment, that’s a problem.
By Julia Ries

Love
8 People Share How Their Divorce Changed Their Life for the Better
“Finally, I loved what I did for a living. I loved who I was and the new friends I’d made.”
By Jenna Ryu

State of the union
Scheduling a Weekly ‘House Meeting’ With My Partner Changed My Damn Life
Now we save the stressful stuff for our check-ins so we can actually enjoy our couch time and date nights.
By Julia Ries

Love
The One Thing You Should Never Do When Your Partner Is Annoying You
If you actually want them to change their ways, you have to be strategic.
By Jenna Ryu

Sex Love
How to Have a ‘Good’ Fight With Your Partner
The Gottmans—everyone’s favorite psychologist power couple—share what healthy conflicts look like, and the traps to avoid.
By Hannah Dylan Pasternak

Sex Love
‘Fight Right’ Is Our February SELF Well-Read Book Club Pick
The psychologists behind the viral bird test think you’re arguing wrong—and want to help you fix it.
By Hannah Dylan Pasternak

Word to the wise
The One Thing You Should Never Say During a Fight With Your Partner
A couples counselor says this bad habit will only set you up for more conflict.
By Jenna Ryu

Life
RHONY’s Jessel Taank Would Tell Her Younger Self to Shut Up More—And Stress Less
“I was like, Holy shit, I have to change; I cannot be so free, so frivolous.”
By Hannah Dylan Pasternak

Mr. Clean
The Path to Gender Equality Starts...With Dishes
An excerpt from Alex Manley’s new book, ‘The New Masculinity.’
By Alex Manley

Space heater
You Don’t Necessarily Need to Leave Your House to Have a Hot Date Night
Our garage bar invigorated our marriage. For you, maybe it’s the living room floor.
By Katie Arnold-Ratliff

Beauty
11 Ways I Practiced Self-Care in the Months, Weeks, and Days Leading Up to My Wedding
From uninhibited screaming to learning how to give myself a blowout.
By Hannah Dylan Pasternak

Love
Can't Decide If You Should Break Up With Your Partner? Ask Yourself These Questions.
Feeling conflicted or obligated is totally normal.
By Sharon Kwon, LCSW

Love
6 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’re Considering an Open Relationship
A therapist explains how to know if it's right for you.
By Marie Southard Ospina

Love
5 Practical Tips to Prevent Technology From Destroying Your Relationship
Without having to delete TikTok, of course.
By Nikki Campo